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my pondering over marridge and relationships
I can't say I know the statistics for out here, but as heard on Oprah before, 50% of marridges in the U.S. now end in separation or divorce. I'd wager it would be the same here taking into consideration the population difference.
I always will remember being so amazed at both primary and secondary school, how pretty much every second child would be with parents who separated.
Before Oprah was about women and how they found out it was over and if there were any warning signs. apparently there were quite a few cases when after 9 11 firefighters would leave their wifes for the widdowed wives from 9 11. they features a couple of those cases. They featured a woman who had five children, her husband went off with her best friend and both sets of kids were the best of friends.
And there was a woman who was twelve weeks pregnant and they just bought a house and all, and he just said to her one night "I don't love you any more. this is it!"> I can honestly understand men having emotions and feelings too; of course. it'd be stupid of me to say they didn't, but I do think some guys simply pick the most poor poor timing to do it? I mean I'm sure he would have been thinking about his lack of ability to love her for some time?! why get her pregnant? it's just weird! I mean no-one is perfect but I just can't work out why anyone would do that! oh that's right, she had said "why now? I'm pregnant" and he replied "I knew once you had the baby I couldn't leave!" hello! no difference buddy!
I dunno .. I mean I know there are heaps of maridges that work, but i guess I am seeing this kinda stuff everywhere! I don't know! I mean, people always say it's more now couples rush into things and they don't want to work to keep a relationship any more. As a Psychologist on Oprah said "it's not how the other woman looks or smells or feels, but how they make them (the guys) feel.
Communication is soo important between a couple. I mean maridge can go through so many phazes and levels. I have always observed that they go through the magic and the spark of the pre-maridge, then the honeymoon once they are married. then the kids come, and a lot of maridges change. People no longer have time for each other as much, I spose that's why. But it's all about the kids, not each other any more.
The more i hear these stories the more I wonder what's worth it? In every relationship I've had, and/or every other one I've longed to have, I've always been hurt! They say love is so nice and all, and it can be. It's all just sooo magic when it's right, and you two only have eyes for each other, but how long can that last? Love is painful I reckon. the majority of the time! I always say I wish I didn't have that "falling in love" thing in me. life would be so much more perfect!
In saying that, of course I want all the hope, luck and prayers in the world that I can find happiness one day in the area. Find stability; and hopefully have a family of my own.
Everything just seems so uncertain these days. Marridge is not forever now in the majority of cases! With that school statistic of mine, I just couldn't believe it! I guess when I was that young I didn't understand why parents weren't together!
anyway .. that's my evaluation after today I wanted to get out to my lovely journal, and now I go and wash my hair I think.
I'm getting my damn period too. no wonder i was more on edge than usual last night!
Til Next time, RdFreak
I always will remember being so amazed at both primary and secondary school, how pretty much every second child would be with parents who separated.
Before Oprah was about women and how they found out it was over and if there were any warning signs. apparently there were quite a few cases when after 9 11 firefighters would leave their wifes for the widdowed wives from 9 11. they features a couple of those cases. They featured a woman who had five children, her husband went off with her best friend and both sets of kids were the best of friends.
And there was a woman who was twelve weeks pregnant and they just bought a house and all, and he just said to her one night "I don't love you any more. this is it!"> I can honestly understand men having emotions and feelings too; of course. it'd be stupid of me to say they didn't, but I do think some guys simply pick the most poor poor timing to do it? I mean I'm sure he would have been thinking about his lack of ability to love her for some time?! why get her pregnant? it's just weird! I mean no-one is perfect but I just can't work out why anyone would do that! oh that's right, she had said "why now? I'm pregnant" and he replied "I knew once you had the baby I couldn't leave!" hello! no difference buddy!
I dunno .. I mean I know there are heaps of maridges that work, but i guess I am seeing this kinda stuff everywhere! I don't know! I mean, people always say it's more now couples rush into things and they don't want to work to keep a relationship any more. As a Psychologist on Oprah said "it's not how the other woman looks or smells or feels, but how they make them (the guys) feel.
Communication is soo important between a couple. I mean maridge can go through so many phazes and levels. I have always observed that they go through the magic and the spark of the pre-maridge, then the honeymoon once they are married. then the kids come, and a lot of maridges change. People no longer have time for each other as much, I spose that's why. But it's all about the kids, not each other any more.
The more i hear these stories the more I wonder what's worth it? In every relationship I've had, and/or every other one I've longed to have, I've always been hurt! They say love is so nice and all, and it can be. It's all just sooo magic when it's right, and you two only have eyes for each other, but how long can that last? Love is painful I reckon. the majority of the time! I always say I wish I didn't have that "falling in love" thing in me. life would be so much more perfect!
In saying that, of course I want all the hope, luck and prayers in the world that I can find happiness one day in the area. Find stability; and hopefully have a family of my own.
Everything just seems so uncertain these days. Marridge is not forever now in the majority of cases! With that school statistic of mine, I just couldn't believe it! I guess when I was that young I didn't understand why parents weren't together!
anyway .. that's my evaluation after today I wanted to get out to my lovely journal, and now I go and wash my hair I think.
I'm getting my damn period too. no wonder i was more on edge than usual last night!
Til Next time, RdFreak
Re: Ponderings over marriage?
See you next year! ha ha!
Re: Ponderings over marriage?
Till next time, Yorkshire_tea!
Re: Ponderings over marriage?